“I’m getting tired of being singled out because I am a single male.”
How many times have you heard that? How many times have you said that? It’s so unfair that single men are discriminated against because of their gender, isn’t it?
Well, yes it is and…no it isn’t, for a number of reasons. For one thing, it’s not just a gender issue, it’s a combination of gender and the lack of a ‘keeper’. It’s a matter of behavior. Gosh, where have we heard that before as it applies to men?
People go to private nudist venues to relax and have a good time, free from the worries that can hamper their enjoyment of public facilities. One of the things they want to get away from is the stereotype guy who ogles the ladies and thinks he’s God’s gift to women, and proves it by making himself available for stud service to any woman he sees. He knows, of course, that she’s just aching for his attentions; why else would she be flaunting herself like that, naked by the pool?
Is that you? Of course not. You’re a good guy, a genuine nudist who happens
to be single and may not even be interested in hooking up right now. A day in the sun is all you ask, is that so terrible? Nope, not at all. But you’re not welcome at a lot of nudist venues because of Joe Cool over there who has created a long history of bothering women, getting drunk and obnoxious, and generally making everyone else wish they’d stayed home.
That ‘everyone else’ is the group of folks who put their hard-earned money and effort into building the club as a place where they could be comfortable and safe. Or they’re the ones paying good money to enjoy those same benefits. They are not there to have to deal with idiots; there’s plenty of them outside the gates.
And then there’s the single woman, that elusive creature so rare at nudist venues and so carefully cultivated once lured inside. Believe it or not, just 
because a woman is alone does not mean that she is waiting for a man to fill the void. Men are easy to find; she doesn’t need to get naked to find one of them! Surprisingly, women too like to just relax sometimes without dealing with potential suitors, and an excess of loose men hanging around makes that difficult.
Nudist clubs, camps, and resorts all have in common that they cost a lot of money to operate, have a limited clientele, often have a limited season, and survive by delivering what they promise – which is a safe, hassle-free environment for nudists to relax and socialize in without a single concern to mar their visit. The venue’s very existence depends on being able to provide this every single time for every single visitor lest they lose their customers.
These clubs and resorts weren’t built by or for single men, they were built by people committed to a lifestyle free from the harsh realities of Textile society, including the predatory behavior exhibited by many single men in the presence of a woman, whether she’s single or not. They are there by mutual agreement that such behavior is not to be tolerated for the comfort of all.
History, a lot of history, has shown that single men simply cannot be trusted to play by the rules. Women seem to be able to. Couples seem to be able to. Single men…do not.
So it’s a matter of the comfort of those who regularly use the facilities and the
very real financial risk involved in possibly losing that solid customer base should even a few guys misbehave and disturb someone. It’s just not worth taking a chance.
As a single good-guy nudist, what can you do about this? Nothing. As a single good-guy nudist with a female (sometimes male) friend to bring along? You can enter the facility and enjoy the comfort and safety of knowing that you won’t be bothered by Joe Cool. That, Sir, is a fact of life.
A ‘must read’ for single male nudists:
Vintage Nudism: The Single Male Issue Includes an excellent article that explains it all in a timely fashion – published in 1949!
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